Archive | April 2009

Indiana wants me…..

indiana-and-sylvia-0371indiana-and-sylvia-0951Just got back from a great vacation at my brother’s  house in Indiana.  First let me say Igot the results back of my heart tests…all looks pretty good thankfully.  I have a little fluid around my heart but nothing to panic over at this point.  Mostly the doctor is concerned about my blood clotting disorders and watching my blood pressure!  These things I can handle.  A bad ticker…not so much!  So, it was with a much lighter heart and mind that I took off on a plane to Lebanon Indiana to see my brother.

Wow the weather there was amazing!  Living in AZ with lupus is a daily struggle.  The hot sun, the scorching temperatures can make me very ill.  It’s a constant battle of wanting to be outdoors but needing to stay in.  Not so in Indiana!  I was outside going on walks in the cool breezes, cloudy skies lessened the affects of the sun to my body and it was terrific!  My brother was installed as the new pastor at the church there and I was so proud.  I realized how much I miss him and spending time with he and his wife and kids.  Family is so important and often taken for granted.  This weekend was a great time to catch up and be together!  Please enjoy the pictures and video of my brother sis and I singing at the installation!  The old building and lovely stained glass is my brother’s church.  Nothing like it!

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my brother's church...a historical building!

my brother's church...a historical building!White Castle...Truly God's food!All of us at the Lake Enjoying the perfect weather

Life is getting better!…and Oprah

I have finally reached that point where I am taking time for me.  I am relaxing more and concentrating on staying as healthy as I can.  I went through a battery of tests last week for my heart.  I won’t get the results until next thursday, but I am hoping for the best.  I can feel  my joints rebelling against me lately.  More so then usual.  It’s not pleasant to feel like you are 120 years old when you are only 46.  I’m trying to be really good about my medication to try to keep that all in check.  I find when i miss a dose or a day of medicine I really am not in good shape.  And when things are stressful, like tax season, my emotions run rampant, and my body starts to interfere with life.  Easter was a good day.  We spent time with family, watched golf, which was a trip, and ate lots of good food.  I actually felt farily healthy that day as well. 

So, I need to comment on the Oprah show that seems to be getting a lot of attention.  She did a couple of shows on teenagers and sex…what to tell them, what to discuss with them and what they need to know.  Then she had a panel discussion with her friend Gale and a few others.  I have to admit that i was a little stunned by what the “expert” had to say about what we as parents should be telling our kids starting as young as 12 to 14 years old. 

One of those things had to do with introducing your girls to vibrators, and masturbation.  Wow!  I sat there with my 19 year old daughter and I have to say that we were both in a bit of shock over what was being said.  Honestly, I had the discussion with my girls about sex, about not having sex until you are in a loving relationship (I actually emphasized being married) and that it is really an adult decision and an adult thing to be involved in.  I did not, however, introduce my teenagers to vibrators or sex toys.  I feel, personally, that that is an adult thing as well.  What happened to teaching kids about friendship, relationship, learning to know one another before the sex even becomes a part of the whole thing? 

I’m not stupid, I do realize that kids are engaging in sexual activity at unbelievable ages, and girls are getting pregnant younger and younger.  Could that be, however, because we as parents, as adults have failed in teaching our kids the way that relationships should develope?  It seems to me that sex is the first thing that enters the picture nowadays instead of the last.  TV and movies are teaching our kids that sex is okay any time, any place and we just go along with it.  I’m guilty of it myself…watching those movies and laughing along with my kids.  What happened to demonstrating what relationships should look like in our own lives…teaching by example? 

Kids nowadays think sex fixes everything.  It is the best part of relationships…they can’t wait for that part to happen.  If only they knew that the best part  of relationship is the being together, sharing laughter, special moments, talking and getting to know one another, compainion ship.  Passion fades away over time.  It needs to be constantly rekindled, and you cannot sustain a relationship on sex a lone.  But kids are not taught that anymore! 

Shame on us as parents for letting this happen to our kids, to the future of this country and the world.  We really need to do better then this!

Good Friday

Many years ago there lived a family.  Things were not always easy for this family.  There were financial struggles, health struggles, the same kinds of struggles that most families go through.  There was one thing that was different about this family.  This particular family was grounded in Christ. 

Joanne, the mom in the family, lived every moment of her life trying to show her kids that Jesus loved them.  She taught them that no matter how tough things got, He was always there for them.  And, when they had no one else to talk to they could always pray, knowing that He would hear them.  Joanne went so far as to walk her kids to the door before school everyday, and pray for them before they went on their way. 

There was even one time, when she had gone to visit her sister, that she called her oldest daughter to pray with her over the phone in the morning before she went to school.  Somehow, Joanne knew that her daughter was having a difficult time at that point in her life, and just that small act of praying over the phone with her made all the difference in her day! 

Don, the dad, was a bit different in the way he showed his faith.  He wasn’t quite as vocal about it, although he did pray with the family at every meal, and when they went on vacations the day was always started with prayer!  And while he was sometimes gruff and abrasive the kids knew that in his heart he had a deep faith in Jesus and his prayer was that his kids would grow in that faith and not wander from it as they got older.  He was always encouraging of the kids muscial persuits, and was at every concert, front and center with a smile that could light the entire building.  It was affectionatly called “the dad teeth” smile and all the kids knew it and expected it at every performance, concert, recital, or speech. 

This whole family was surrounded by the love of two amazing grandparents who were as close to God as two people can be.  They had this amazing marriage that was loving and gentle, yet they were both strong and independant people.  Grandma never had a drivers license but that never stopped her from getting here or there, and enjoying friends and family.  Grandpa was an evangelist who traveled often.  Grandma often joked that Grandpa was never home for her birthday because he was out spreading the word of God, but he never failed to come home with a gift for her showing his love and devotion to her and their marriage.  To the very end the grandparents began and ended their days with prayer. 

So, it was in this environment that this daughter, that I,  learned about the beauty of Good Friday.  The prayer between Son and Father in the garden of gethsemene, the tears that fell down his face, the torment and torture of the man who died for all of our sins, was more important in this family then even christmas.  Because it was for this very day that that Jesus was born. 

It was because of His grace, His goodness and his undying love for us that Good Friday and Easter happened. 

I haven’t been a perfect person in my life, I have  made many mistakes.  I haven’t always treated people the way they should be treated.  There are days when I doubt my abilities as a parent and certainly as a wife.  My parents and grandparents are hard people to live up to when it comes to those things. There are even days that I question God and why it is that I have to go through the burden of having a chronic illness…or why my family has to be burdened by me.   But one thing I know for sure, I am forgiven, I am loved inspite of all those things, and I am a child of the king who died for me on Good Friday….and rose again on Easter.  There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t silently thank God for the example that my parents and grandparents were to me.  They showed me how to really live…and that is in the celebration of Jesus and the life he gave for me!

Happy easter!

Prom Weekend

Do you remember your prom?  I remember both of mine.  I went to a private highschool…a christian highschool that believed dancing led to sex so..we didn’t have a traditional prom.  We had a Junior Senior banquet…it was called simply JS!  At the banquet was great food, hangin with friends and an always comical skit done by the teachers mocking all of the students!  Then after the banquet someone always opened their house for an after party, no booze, no drugs, just being with friends and having a good time.  I don’t remember a lot of the details of JS but I do remember I went my senior year with my best “guy” friend in highschool.  Neither of us were dating anyone and it seemed like a great idea for a fun end to senior year (shout out to Troy Nelson!) 

I remember wearing the dress I had worn as a bridesmaid in my brother’s wedding…it was actually a dress that you COULD wear again, and being with my best girlfriend.  But the best part of our prom came the next day when everyone set out for Taylors Falls to picnic and hang out.  The girls would pack a huge picnic lunch and we would drive to the falls and spend the day.  It was a blast. 

Well, this past weekend was my daughters prom.  It made me a bit nostalgic and it also made me wonder where some of the creativity has gone that used to surround proms and dances in highschool.  The theme of her prom was a “rocker” theme…not 50′s rocker or 60′s just rocker.  Basically, it was a dance that no one really had to get creative to make memorable.  What happened to masquerade balls and huge formals and things?  Now kids just want to dance to music where they can “bump and grind” on each other and not have to be creative about any of it.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to diss my daughters prom, this actually came from her…they don’t even have sadie hawkins dances anymore…what’s up with that? 

Anyway, my daughter looked amazing.  Her date was truly a lucky guy to have gotten to spend the evening with her.  So, here are a few pictures of my beautiful daughter….

My daughter (in silver) and friends

My daughter (in silver) and friends

my daughter and her best friend

my daughter and her best friend

my daughter and her date

my daughter and her date

Some of you know that I have been having some tests done on my heart this week.  It has been a stressful week but two of the tests are done.  And while Idon’t have results yet I am thinking positively knowing that God is gracious and that no matter what the outcome is I am sure there will be a solution to the problem.  I have found that if I keep my focus positive I feel better and can cope with what lies ahead!  Thanks for the thoughts and prayers!

 

Life is going to be busy the next few weeks with graduations and things.  It’s time to celebrate all the hardwork my kids have put in to getting where they are.  I’m so proud of them!  This is when the whole parenting thing starts becoming worth it all!