As a blended family you have to come up with some creative ways to make up traditions to bring the family together especially during the holidays. It’s hard to keep the holiday spirit because the kids are pulled from this parent to that one and often the holidays are split up or spent with one parent one year and the other the next. So, we have had to be imaginative in order to keep things festive around our house.
One of the things we do is called “fakes-giving”. And this year my “real” family incorporated it into our family without even realizing that it was something that we have been doing in our “blended” family for quite sometime, and we look forward to it. Because all the neices and nephews have grown up, gotten married, have in laws etc it is hard to get everyone together on the actual “thanksgiving” holiday so this year we had thanksgiving dinner at my brother’s house on Saturday. So, in a sense, my family had “fakes-giving” dinner without even realizing what they were doing. I wasn’t feeling very well, another attack of lupus at a very inconvenient time, I think I may have even broken a rib coughing, which is a little funny in itself. But it was a great time, with great food, fellowship and family.
The real odd part was that a bunch of my kids were not even able to be there..ironic huh?? So, this year, on the real thanks giving, we are having thanksgiving dinner at our own house. But, again we won’t have all the kids with us. A couple of my step kids will be with their mom, so they won’t be with us for thanksgiving dinner. So, the game plan will have to be that a “fake’s giving” dinner will have to be planned when all of us can be together again to enjoy it.
Another tradition we have is giving money to the “hey ho ho ho guy” at the safeway/walmart stores. This started because we just loved the man who stood outside the Walmart and in a monotone voice, with no emotion whatsoever said “hey ho ho ho” over and over for hours on end. It gave us the giggles and we couldn’t help but give the guy money. He was there one year and then two. When we looked for him the third year he wasn’t there but the tradition had begun and stuck. So, now, wherever we see the person with the bell and can we give money, even if its just a little, we give and it gives us joy and brings back a great memory for all of us.
I encourage you all to make some traditions of your own, no matter how strange or small. If they make your heart happy, if they make you smile and bring joy to your family, those memories will be what remain with you and your family for a lifetime and beyond. happy thanks/fakes-giving everyone!